There has been a bit of back-and-forth in the comment section of my last post. The gist of it goes something like this:
"Hey, look at this great thing Bud did."
"Actually, that might just be a deficit masquerading as a strength."
"Really, I gotta say, I think it's a strength."
"Perhaps. On the other hand, it could just be a well-developed deficit."
I'm not going to volley back, because ultimately, any response I have will sound at best like I'm being defensive and at worst like I'm in denial.
But it does make me have to ask:
Why is it that when it comes to autism, so many of us are so quick to view behavior through the lens of deficit and so slow to view it through the lens of strength?
The lens through which we view our children matters. The way we frame their behavior shapes our response, and the way we respond shapes their behavior. It's a dynamic cycle.
Presume competence, folks. Presume competence.