Wednesday, June 30, 2010

I can't get no

It seems Bud has decided that he doesn't like a heavy dose of melancholy in his music.

This is not exactly a new phenomenon - for years, he has avoided Keith Urban's song "Everybody" because, he says, "it makes me strain." But recently, there seem to be more songs that are pulling his heartstrings in all the wrong directions, and he's having none of it. I get it, since I tend to be the same way with books and movies - I mean, life can be tough enough all on its own; I don't need heartbreak and despair in my entertainment. So, when a song like Carrie Underwood's "Just a Dream" comes on and I hear Bud's cautious "Mom?" piping up from the back seat, I quickly change the station and find a more upbeat tune.

Sometimes, though, Bud just wants to provide a little commentary on the music that's playing or ask a question about the lyrics, so I try not to make assumptions about how a particular song will affect him until he lets me know. The other day, Bud and I were in the middle of a long road trip when Trace Adkins' "I Wanna Feel Something" came on. It's not a new song and Bud has heard it a million times before without comment. This time, though, as the song came to its chorus,

"I want a heart that beats and bleeds,
A heart that's bustin' at the seams,
I wanna care, I wanna cry, I wanna scream.
I just wanna feel something,"

I heard Bud's voice from behind me. "Mom," he said, "it's satisfying."

"What's satisfying, Bud?"

"Trace. 'I Wanna Feel Something.' It's satisfying."

"You feel satisfied?" I asked.

"Yeah," he said. But the "yeah" sounded just a touch too glum to me. Something wasn't adding up.

"What does 'satisfying' mean, Bud?" I asked.

"Means it makes me sad," he answered.

Ah.

Not satisfying.

Sadisfying.

Got it.

We changed the station.

7 comments:

Apples and Autobots said...

Awh. Poor little guy.

pixiemama said...

I'm with you guys - I don't need sadisfying entertainment. Even though I have heard that particular Trace Adkins song and it resonates with me, I can't dwell in it.

xo

Melissa H said...

We listen to Christian top 40, so my references wouldn't make sense to most. But, there are two songs that Conor has refused to listen to for as long as I can remember. It's like Name That Tune in the car when the first few notes come across the airwaves. He bellows from the back seat, "I can't listen to this song!!! Change it!!!" I always obey.

Professor Mother said...

What a huge thing he's doing though! By rejecting "sad songs", he's becoming aware of "sad feelings" of others- and that they can affect him. Kids with autism (even HFA) often don't recognize that others are sad, and even if they recognize it, don't empathize with it enough to be "sadisfied".

After all, in the words of Elton John, "sad songs say so much"... He's "hearing" what they say!

gail said...

Great catch, Mom. I doubt I would have picked up on that.

jess said...

I love that you are so attuned to Bud that you hear beyond the (presumed meaning of) the words.

And I'm with him, much as I adore that song, it nearly kills me every time.

LAA and Family said...

Interesting! My son likes '70s music and asks me to change the station any time a "sad" song is played. I'm not yet sure if it's the words or music itself that he doesn't care for.