Tuesday, February 02, 2010

Full disclosure

Remember a couple of years ago when I told you about the phenomenon in my life in which total strangers start disclosing personal details about their lives to me? Remember how I said I thought I just had "one of those faces?"

Apparently, it's not my face.

This evening, I called Capital One to close a credit card account that has been lingering for too long with a zero balance, adding nothing to my life but another opportunity for identity theft. The woman who answered the phone was warm and professional, asked me all the right questions, and gave me the rationale for why I might want to consider hanging on to that card and earning rewards, rewards, rewards.

Somewhere between the allure of earning rewards and the "have a nice day," I also learned that she lived in central Texas, where winters are warm and summers are hot, but where it is likely to be in the 30's this week. I learned that her fiance had returned from Iraq to a base in Louisiana, but that his return to Texas had been threatened by the freak snow storm that blanketed the southern states last week. The idea that he could be so close and still not be able to get home was, to say the least, difficult for her to manage.

The ending was happy, though. They've been reunited. And my account has been closed.

And, apparently - even if I never show my face - whatever it is? I've still got it.

19 comments:

Niksmom said...

It's the warmth that radiates from within you, my dear.

BTW, thank you for your comment on my last post. It meant a lot to me. xo

kristina said...

I was just going to say, I bet you've had a few good talks (perhaps) with a telemarketer or two---certainly I feel that warmth in your every post.

Accidental Expert said...

You just have one of those voices, I guess.

Anonymous said...

You are interested in others and ask open-ended questions.
I can go through an entire gathering without saying one word about myself and nobody asks, my interest in others is genuine as is yours.
We would be an asset to the CIA!
Linda

Royal Ranch said...

People sense when they are speaking with someone who really cares when the ask "How are you doing today?". How wonderful that you make a difference in not only you readers, friends and families days, but perfect strangers as well.

Joeymom said...

We call it "having 'Tell Me Your Life Story' stamped on your forehead." Whenever it happens to my mom or to me, we turn to each other smack our fist to our forehead (applying the "stamp"). And no, folks don't have to actually see you for it to work. I'm going to write a book, "Adventures in Grocery Shopping" about this phenomenon.

Geoz said...

I have this wart that I've been meaning to talk to you about....

pixiemama said...

OR - those people who share ELD with EVERYONE keep ending up in your path. The question is, why?

jess wilson said...

we all (or most of us at least) go through the motions of social niceties - we ask how people are, how their day was, what's new.

most people ask the questions without sticking around for the answers. they may still be standing there, but they've long since moved on.

some though - a rare and special few - care. and well, it's hard to miss em. face to face or not.

kristenspina said...

Imagine the stories you would get as a journalist. Damn. I think you missed your calling...

(But yes, you do, in fact, have a way about you. Inviting, warm. It just shines thru, no matter what!!)

Brenda said...

Laughing out loud now! This happens to me, too. And you know what, I really enjoy the stories! Such things I find out! Glad you do, too.

Claire said...

It's what makes you a) a good writer(you pay attention to the details), b) a good friend (you pay attention to the details) and c) a good mom (you pay attention to the details). The difference is- you PAY ATTENTION to the details, and not just "uh huh" at people... :)

Rachel said...

The same thing happens to me all the time. I can hear all about the details of people's lives without said people ever asking a thing about me. I think it's that I don't interrupt people. I just let them talk, thinking that they might bring the conversation around to how I'm doing, but it rarely happens. I sure learn a lot about people, though. Good thing I've got that Aspie innocence and wouldn't ever use it against them! Come to think of it, that's probably why they tell me in the first place!

kyra said...

it comes through here loud and clear! xxx

Jordan said...

I love it. It's exactly what I'd expect of you, for all the reasons those who read posts in a more timely manner have already noted. ;-)

bubbleboo said...
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bubbleboo said...

That seems to happen to me a lot, too! I always wondered why that was! Oh, and I have something for you over on my blog, too :) The post is called 'Bring Me Sunshine'.

Anonymous said...

I agree with all of the above, you are warm, easy to talk to and caring. But the best thing about you in your ability to know when you are suppose to just listen or offer advice. As a person who confides in you a lot, I can say I truely look up to you and look for your guidance in most things. Thanks for being you!

Binxcat1 said...

Yep, I have this overwhelming urge to tell you all about me and MY story... but I don't need to... it's so similar to your own... well many parts of it anyway! I feel like I have finally found someone who REALLY "gets it". Please keep blogging.