I learned this week that Bud needs to have his tonsils and adenoids removed. I knew it was coming. His tonsils are the size of my head. (Okay, not really - but you know what I mean. They're really big.) When he's sick, he has trouble breathing. This summer we had to rush him to the emergency room; that's how bad it gets.
It turns out that his tonsils aren't just causing problems when he's sick. They are also causing sleep apnea, which, in turn, means that he is not having restful sleep. The lack of restful sleep was not news to me. The apnea - the fact that he stops breathing while he sleeps - was. And that's a fact that could give me a lot of sleepless nights.
So he's scheduled for surgery in December. I had my tonsils out a few years ago, and it was the worst experience of my life. Now, I understand that 1) I am, for the most part, a big baby about things like that, and 2) recovery from a tonsillectomy is easier for a child than it is for an adult, but, still, I wish it could be avoided.
There is a silver lining here, however. Yesterday I told a special educator at Bud's school about the upcoming surgery and she said, "Have you seen the research that suggests a connection between tonsils and ADHD?"
I hadn't. But now I have, and it makes me hopeful. Bud doesn't technically have an ADHD diagnosis, but behaviorally, a lot of Bud's challenges look an awful lot like ADHD. So it will be interesting to see what the long-term benefits of the surgery are for him.
At the very least, it's likely to result in more and better sleep. For both of us.