Thursday, October 18, 2007

Do not dissterve

Bud's assertiveness skills are better than ever.

These days when someone invades Bud's personal space - tries to cuddle when he's not in a cuddling mood, or (heaven forbid) plants a kiss with out expressed permission - Bud is quick to redirect: "That's not nice. You have to do nice things. Otherwise, there won't be any (fill in the blank with whatever activity was scheduled to happen next)."

Yesterday, Bud's Nana joined him on the couch, but was apparently sitting too close for comfort.

He picked up his book and moved to a different location, saying matter-of-factly, "I'm moving. You're dissterving me."

File this one under "be careful what you wish for." We've been telling him to use his words...

13 comments:

Eileen (aka Mamaroo) said...

And what a great job at using HIS words!!! Even if it does hurt Nana's feelings, something tells me she's thrilled to hear that she was dissterving him.

Ange said...

Independance and using his words...wonderful! I always try to keep from grinning when Bubba says "disturbing" or "miserable."

Wendy said...

Doesn't it feel great though? Just this morning I actually heard myself saying to Caden, "Please, can you just be quiet for one minute?" And it was like a ton of bricks hit me. Whoa. This is the same kid who was basically non-verbal 1.5-2 years ago. Wow.

Niksmom said...

LOL. Must be something in the air today with our boys.

bubandpie said...

Hehe. I've been trying to remind myself of the value of assertiveness every time Pie barks at me, "Go away with your face."

Drama Mama said...

I LOVE this!!! Go, Bud! Assert thyself!

I miss the days when Miss M called the dinners I would make "misgusting". Grateful for the expression, you know?

Nicki Mann said...

Wow, thats pretty good use of words!

Kim Stagliano said...

What a great use of a big (and creative) word! My G likes to watch us drink our Cloffee. The other day she said, "This is my area." AREA??? I loved it.

Way to go Kiddo! And BElla is standing here and just said, "mama!" A rare event and most welcome.

And Jacob Allen is HOME. A good day, Mom NOS, a good day.

Anonymous said...

Yeah, my son noticed another woman in the elevator this morning. He turned to me and said "the lady is fat." My heart just sank, I apologized and explained to him how rude it is to say such things. But he was RIGHT, he noticed another person, he described something about them, he used his words - it's kind of a double-edged sword, huh?

for what it's worth said...

My div 1 cuddling skills came into an area of concern this week. One of my lads was upset with a peer and I gently put my hand on his back to offer support while he spoke to the peer.

I was summarily put in my place. And when things had quietened down, I apologized for my hand and praised this young lad with using his words...he in turn apologized if his words had hurt my feelings ( something we have been discussing lately; tone of voice, choice of words etc). A celebration of sorts ensued.

Linda H. said...

Wow! Just read the post on Josh Bernstein and his book. So glad you have started to read it. Sadly, Josh has moved on from the "Digging for the Truth" show, and it appears like the show is fading fast without him. But he is supposed to be starting a new series (which he will also produce) with the Discovery Channel soon.

kyra said...

i love bud-isms. somehow, his versions are MUCH more descriptive!

Anonymous said...

Words are powerful...and i know that
http://www.child-central.com/raise-and-teach-autistic-child.html