There are moments when it clicks for me. I've been working on using an "RDI lifestyle" since I attended a workshop last summer, and on an intuitive level I know that it has been helping Bud in significant ways. I know that he's developing important interpersonal skills - reading the context, paying attention to nonverbals, referencing for information, developing flexible thinking - but it's often difficult for me to describe how I know that it's happening. And then there are those little you'll-miss-them-if-you-blink moments when it clicks:
Bud was in the living room watching tv and I was in the kitchen rummaging in the refrigerator. I stood up too quickly, banged my head hard on the corner of the freezer door, and yowled a loud "OW!"
Bud followed the sound into the kitchen and approached me, asking "What did you did, Mama?"
"I bumped my head," I said, still standing in front of the fridge rubbing my noggin.
"On the -?" he asked, looking at me quizzically, running his hand over the smooth refrigerator door.
"On the corner of the freezer," I said, pointing to it. "I stood up too fast and I hit my head on it."
"Let me see it," he said, reaching for my head.
I bent down and pointed to the spot that hurt. "Right there."
Bud rubbed my head, then puckered up and gave the sore spot a big loud kiss: "Mmmm- WAH! There. That's better." He looked at me, his face asking did it work?
"Thanks, Bud," I said with a smile and a hug. "I do feel better!"
And I really did.