It seems there are some difficult conversations in my future. I don't really want to blog about them until they've been had, but the preparation has forced me to really think about how to articulate what I believe Bud needs.
There's a lot that I don't know about what he needs. Sometimes I don't know what he needs until he gets something he doesn't need, and it all becomes clear in hindsight. But as I think about it and consider it from multiple perspectives, I keep coming back to the same thought.
I think that Bud will do best if we - all the people in his life - concentrate our energy on working with Bud, and not on working against autism. Am I being nit-picky with semantics again? I'm not sure; maybe I am. But it just seems as though that shift in philosophy - that (perhaps) subtle shift from a focus on the negative ("working against") to a focus on the positive ("working with") - is huge. For Bud. Or maybe for me. Or maybe both.