Monday, December 19, 2005

Reason to celebrate

Clay's birthday party was an unqualified success.

There were two primary groups of children there: loud, rambunctious 4-to-6-year-old boys and louder, squealing-and-shrieking 10-to-12-year-old girls. Almost all of the other children were strangers to Bud. And yet there he was in the thick of things - engaged, smiling, and extraordinarily well-regulated.

He was so well-regulated, in fact, that when the boys' sledding activity turned into a game of human obstacle course he laughed as boys hurled themselves in front of his sled as it sped down the hill, resulting in a jumble of boy arms and boy legs and boy faces covered in snow. He waited patiently for his turn as five boys shared two sleds, and he asked other boys "is it my turn now?" He was unphased when, without warning, Clay jumped onto his sled as it zipped by and held tightly onto Bud's back and they flew down the hill together. He didn't even seem to notice the mayhem that ensued as the girls attacked the boys in a snowball fight that continued until Clay's mom noticed and started ushering them all inside.

He didn't seem to notice. But once they were inside and he had the sleds and the hill to himself he turned to me with a twinkle in his eye and gathered up a mitten full of snow. "I throw at you," he said tossing the flakes of snow toward me in a gentle flurry. "I got you, Mama!"

Inside, Bud took lots of breaks from the crowd and made his way to the playroom where he discovered an electronic keyboard. "Look, everybody!" he shouted down the stairs. "It's Bud's Dance Party!" He played happily upstairs, sometimes on his own and sometimes among a squall of shrieking children. But he joined the group quite a bit as well. He played Pin the Nose on the Snowman - blindfold, spinning, and all. He joined the group for singing Happy Birthday and eating ice cream. He had a perfectly wonderful time, and when it was time to go he protested: "But I want to stay at the party! I want to stay at Clay's house!" Clay's mom promised that he could come back another day, and he grudgingly agreed to leave.

What a milestone we've reached. The best part is that Bud knows it. He's been talking about the party since we left, reminiscing about Bud's Dance Party, jumping on my back to recreate Bud And Clay's Excellent Sled Adventure, blowing his party blower till he just can't blow no more. There's a new aura of confidence around Bud these days. And why not? After all, he's a kid who goes to parties.

11 comments:

Eileen said...

I am crying some really happy tears for you and Bud right now! That is sooooooo awesome!!!

Octoberbabies said...

I'm trying to think of something great to say here but feel at a loss for words. I'm just sitting here grinning from ear to ear. Wish you could see my face - it'd say it all.

Sal

gretchen said...

I've been so anxious to hear about the party- and this is just too much! Yeah, I'm a cryer and this is putting me over the edge. I posted on Kristina's site that my wish for Henry is a friend- maybe a friend like Clay. I'm glad to know that it can happen. What a happy day for you!

Yippee yippee!

Kristina Chew said...

I've been checking your blog frequently to see how the party went--I think Bud has given you an early Xmas present.

Suzanne said...

I'm SO glad that the party went so well! Yay!!!! I too have be checking in periodically looking for an update. I'm glad that it was a GREAT one!

Bonnie Ventura said...

So glad the party went well!

Bud sounds like a delightful little boy. You are so lucky to have him.

Merry Christmas to you and your family.

KCsMom said...

How awesome! Bud sounds like a great little guy! Very happy for you both:)

K.C.'s Mommy,
Tina

kyra Anderson said...

i LOVE that! hooray for Bud! hooray for you! hooray for clay!!! your post and Bud's success is so moving! fluffy went to his first birthday party over the weekend and he did beautifully too. he didn't play with the kids his age, but he was unphased by all the chaos and was happy and confident on our way home. hooray for our wonderful kids!

MothersVox said...
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MothersVox said...

Congratulations on the social success for Bud! That's so excellent.

Sweet M. had a big bday party success this year . . . she did a rockclimbing party at the local sports center . . . it was perfect for her. An activity that was daredevilish (as she has always been) and not much on conversational interaction. Everyone had fun . . .

M's shrinks had suggested that we do a little party, with one or two kids. But when you do that, they have to talk to each other . . . which is really not her strong suit. ;) Sometimes the experts don't really understand what the communication disorder does to daily life . . .

Jenn said...

How absolutely wonderful that Bud did so well at the party - I'm truly thrilled. We also had a birthday party to go to last week - It was a McDonalds playland party. Matthew was very excited about it, but refused to play in the playland part, as it required socks and no shoes - something he just doesn't do. He did enjoy the food part of it though, and the cake had candles on it which was the highlight of the party for him! I hope he can someday truly enjoy the party and participate the way Bud enjoyed his!
-jenn